passionate about MY LOVE

marriage. gosh I LOVE marriage. I am passionate about it. It is my ministry. I grew up with parents that set the bar high for what a marriage should be like. I heard all my life about what makes a Godly marriage. I have heard the teachings from my Grandma since I was a young girl what a Godly wife is. My husband and I had such an awesome premarital lessons that helps us in our marriage. We did not have a rough FIRST YEAR. It was anything, but. I grew up on a church that was centered around strong marriages. With all this surrounding me when I was young how could I not be prepared.

When Nathan and I were married we were each others first priority. We both loved and respected equally. We learned how to communicate early on. I think part of that was spending some time long distance. Long distance relationships FORCE you to communicate. And I am already one that wears my emotions on my sleeve. I don't hold things in well. Communication is key. By constantly talking and conversing with Nathan we are on the same page. Sometimes we get off the same page and we regroup and remember we are on the same team. Well alot has changed in the 4 years we have been married. One, we moved to Illinois with no family around. Again, we were each others first priority. No body else got in the way of our relationship because essentially we were alone. Early on we knew how we were together and we knew that children would disrupt how much attention we can give each other. And with our daughter being 10 months old, we are seeing the adjustments we have had to make. 

Life is different now. We have another human being to raise. (We still wonder how we are being trusted with that task, when we still feel like kids ourselves). Nathan works. I stay at home with our daughter. My sole job is to be that wife and to be a mother. I give and give and give...its draining. But through communication with Nathan and going to the Lord in everything I find what I am looking for. But Nathan and I are learning so much about each other and about marriage that we feel like its a whole new relationship. We are having to learn new things about this stage in our marriage. We are having to figure out how to serve one another again. How to love one another again. Because life is different and we have different needs and desires then we did 4 years ago. I beginning to think this is going to be an on going thing for our forever marriage. Life is always changing and we have to adjust. And we are in this committed relationship so we will continue to work at our marriage and build in strong and continue to get stronger.

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Key Marriage Lessons 

Probably have heard some, but maybe not all.

-  you CANNOT change a person

- you marry your spouse's family

-  never go to sleep angry

- greet each other when one returns home

- be together. find hobbies that both parties enjoy

- wives submit, but you're NOT a doormat

- wives you are his partner and you are at his side!

- talk all the time about everything